In the few rare moments when I get time to sit under our back patio to relax and enjoy the view of the garden my mind usually starts to wander, and this is the time my wife Judy dreads. This is where I come up with the ideas of what I can do next in the garden and this means time, money and loss of some lawn area.
Having been married longer than two life sentences for murder (only joking of course) my wife can read me like a book. She knows ‘The look’ and immediately says “Oh no, not more lawn disappearing”.
My ‘mind garden’ always starts big and grand but always ends in a compromise, and the end result is usually good (and still married).
I am not ashamed that I have a fixation with curves; all my gardens have sweeping curves. This is something I will not compromise on. There is obviously no underlying motive, other than being a mere male – hope that does not sound too sexist, it must be my age.
I am able to picture a new garden in my mind but never put that mind picture onto paper; I just roll out the garden hose (for the curves) collect the rocks, fire up the cement mixer and go on from there.
My wife and I can disagree with the type of plants to go into the new garden. I have learnt over the past 44 years not to argue, so sometimes she wins, and sometimes I win. At least I have the advantage of knowing where the ‘roundup’ is kept.
Judy came up to me recently and said there was a problem with the back lawn dying. As I cannot tell a lie, I had to tell her that I had poisoned the lawn and it was going to be a new garden. She replied “you promised me you would not take away any more lawn’, well I said “sometimes promises are meant to be broken”. She got very angry with me and to this day has still has not forgiven me. Sometimes a man just has to do what a man has to do and suffer the consequences.
All jokes aside we have ended up with a garden with something to please both of us and hopefully our garden visitors. It’s a garden full of compromises, just like a good relationship. My garden blog can be found at SubTropical Queensland Open Garden